May is here and we are back in the full swing of life after vacation. Brian left for Berlin the day after we got back from our vacation and I was solo parenting for a week. It went okay, there were a few conflicts that I just couldn't work out so I did miss one volleyball practice, but it was pretty manageable. The Boys and Girls Club volleyball started that week and I left the boys at home alone while I was there, and of course Adam had some kind of crisis with his playlist on his tablet that Nathan couldn't work out so he kept calling me. I couldn't leave so it was very stressful. Thankfully Adam did work it out himself and everyone was safe so we got through it okay. I think work trips are harder for me to manage now than when the kids were young! At least back then we were just all at home all the time and I didn't have to be in two places at once! So many scheduling things I had to work out, and Brian is going away again next week for just a few days and it's going to cause a conflict with Nathan's volleyball game and mine and Lynsey's practice - seriously. Thankfully he doesn't travel much, the Berlin trip was a one off and he only goes to California about every 6 months. We can make it!
Playoffs are upon us and they are bringing just as much joy and anguish as they they always do! So far the joy has outweighed the anguish, but we all know that the likelihood of heartbreak at some point on this road is high. Only one team can win it all! The Oilers pulled off a game 6 series win on Saturday which was super exciting - what a rollercoaster to get there! We're winning, yay! Skinner coughs up the puck and they score an easy one and tie it - boo. Yammer scores an unlikely goal with 3 minutes left - do we dare hope this can hold up?? Thankfully it did! The next round starts tonight and the way the schedule is, I'm going to miss a bunch of the first four games because of volleyball:-(. They just need to make it past this round as club volleyball will be over on Mother's Day - you can do it Oilers!
What else has been going on . . . oh yes, speaking of volleyball, we had a tournament on the 23rd. The team did not do very well. Some might even say some kind of implosion took place. Sabry lost his mind after they lost a bad set and made them run - yes, run - in front of the other team and all the parents. He has quite literally never done this before - even in practice, he has never made them run as a punishment. It was absolutely ridiculous and made them play worse. After that match, he told them to go to the team area and talk as a team - no parents, no cell phones. It was actually not the worst thing, Lynsey said it had been really nice to chat together with no distractions. They came back and played another match, lost again, and then officiated. While half of them were officiating, the rest of them were in the team area where I was sitting with them and chatting. I was getting some really good insight about what does and does not motivate them to play better (shocker - yelling and punishing them doesn't motivate them, how about that). Sabry walks by and sees a couple of girls on their phones and tells them to go home. No explanation, just "go home". I was like, "wait, why??" and he claimed it was because they were on their phones and they weren't supposed to be. One of the girls started crying and the other girls were just shocked as he walked away, high on his big power trip. I collected myself and tried to figure out what to do - I knew this couldn't stand, it was completely unfair. He had NOT been clear that his "no phones" instruction was for the rest of the day, and honestly, he doesn't have the authority to decree this anyway. I tracked him down and told him this was completely unfair, they had all been on their phones so he should send the whole team home if that was going to be his hard stance. He argued with me a bit but did relent, not with any kind of apology to the girls he told to go home, but more with a vague threat of, "well you'll pay for this in practice".
Several of the girls on the team played for him last year and they are all saying he wasn't like this last year. I don't know what the heck is up but they played so scared the rest of the day, it was a complete disaster. There was a team that just free balled it over the net in two hits almost every time. We couldn't beat them. It was awful. I led practice on Monday because Sabry was in Alaska (which he knew when he made his threats) and that just irked the girls even more - they were like, "he knew he wasn't going to be here and he still said that?". Yes, he did. It's been a journey coaching with this guy. He really isn't always like this, I don't agree with all of his decisions but he isn't a jerk like that even close to the majority of the time. I honestly think he truly believes that he is motivating them to be better when he's like this. It's that old school mentality that has long since been debunked in favor of different methods, but not everyone has caught up yet. Anyway, only three practices and two tournaments left (and I think I will get to coach that last tournament because his 13s team will be playing at the same time). We can make it!
Nathan's piano recital was that same day (definitely a crazy day!) and I rushed over there after the tournament to watch him perform. He did amazing once again! He is such a performer! I've never heard him play that song better. I was so proud of him, and I know he was really proud of himself. Hope he sticks with piano!
The weather is finally getting nice and it's time to pay attention to our jungle of a yard again. I did some weeding yesterday but will have to do more this week. So much going on with volleyball and the playoffs, who has time for real life responsibilities anyway! I guess I'll have to make some:-D.